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My Hubby Went Vain
Saturday, May 19, 2007Friday >>> Family day.
Got up early. Oh well, since we got Deye, wala ng chance na tanghaling magising. Gave her bath. Did some chores. In short, yung routine tuwing day-off, yun pa din.
I choose to look after Deye, can't take the heat when cooking, and the fact that I am not for it. My husband cooks lunch on our day off. Just like me, maybe… he's not for babysitting hehehe!
So, finally, after siesta, another routine… we were getting ready to go out. As usual, I didn't want to wear complicated dress on a hot weather. I chose to wear the white shirt given by the Kuro owner as a token of appreciation for doin well in their forum. Plus the "tokong" that I am comfortable with.
Dressed up. Went out of the bedroom! There comes my husband with that look on his face and said… are you promoting their website? Bwahahahaha! I laughed out loud and asked why? Whenever we go out, you always wear that, he said. And when you go to work, you take a lot of time making up your mind which one to wear. Wear something nice. Awwww! Hahaha!
Huh? I thought for a second…. my husband went vain! Maybe not, maybe he wants me look just fine walking with him holding hands downtown. Hahaha!
And to avoid discussion, ayun, I changed. From white shirt to an off shoulder-top hahaha! And worn sandals instead of my happy-feet-bakya. :p
Cyber Friendship Turns to Reality
I never used to believe in Cyber or Online Friendship. I find it unsafe and fake. Since I learned chatting years ago, I met so many people online but the friendship never stayed. It was just there when the chat room was still existing. And when it's gone, they also disappeared.
Until one day, I landed in Kuro. Man that was four years ago!
It was in year 2003, when I registered and that was before I could go to India to meet the parents who are now my in-laws 
.
It was in 2004 when I got married. They were happy to hear that I was finally settling down after 5 years of being together.
It was in year 2005 when I got pregnant. Everyone was impatiently waiting for my little one. Everybody wished for my safety delivery. I felt secured and important at that moment. I had gained so many tips from the experienced moms out there. Then I thought of requesting a separate forum called Mom Zone. It's really fun interacting with other expectant and first time moms online. And being the starter of this forum, I was recognized to become a Moderator. It was rewarding and fulfilling somehow.
It was in year 2006 when I realized, this isn't cyber friendship anymore. I have gained a lot of knowledge, emotions, friends, etc since I joined this community and even introduced it to some of my close friends, including my mother and betterhalf.
And it was in year 2007 when this so-called cyber friendship finally turned into reality…
I had fun. I really had fun meeting some of them in person. Seems like we've known each other for so long. I was keen for a moment. But their smiles and warm welcome made me more comfortable. Kudos to KFG! You've made my March 9 memorable!
But of course, there's more to it! If March 9 was memorable, March 28-29 topped it all! Just for one reason. For one simple reason. After 4 years of exchanging thoughts and advices…
We've finally met! M-e-r-c-y. My now official kumare. I had to travel 5 hours to reach her. But there were no questions like what color are you goin' to wear on that day? Will you be there on time? When I saw her, I knew it was her. No confusions. No questions. Seems like we've known each other for a long long time.
And as promised, she came home the next day. Imagine the trouble we had? 5 + 5 hours of traveling from Subic to Pangasinan. 5 + 5 hours of traveling from Pangasinan to Subic.
We've shared more secrets. We laughed. To top it all, it's all worth it.
Infidelity
I'm into this Kuro Filipino Forum and just recently we were discussing about "releasing and letting go". Of course, I had my fair share of thoughts..
The question was "kung iniwanan/pinagpalit ka ng mahal mo, palalayain o ipaglalaban mo ba sya?" As expected, everyone violently reacted hahaha! Iniwanan na daw pala bakit pa ipaglalaban and so on.Well, everyone is entitled to their own opinion.
But I made a follow-up question para mas magulo ang usapan "eh kung di ka naman iniwan, nag-two time lang sayo? Anong gagawin mo? Hahayaan mo na lang dun sa isinabay sayo o ipaglalaban mo?"
This is what I replied "I was once a victim but… I did not let go. Nakipaglaban ako….
Releasing kasi is as easy as ejecting a CD from a player. But letting go is far different from it. Nakapagrelease ka man pero ang tanong, have you let go? Kung susundan mo ng letting go ang releasing na yan, then only you can tell, you're free from that pain.
Pero minsan sa mga taong nabibiktima ng infidelity, di na kasi natin naiisip yung naging value sa atin ng taong lumoko sa atin. When I was in that situation, syempre initial reaction was galit ako! Ayoko na blah blah blah! Ang nasa isip mo lang at that moment ay yung maling nagawa nya.
Let's be fair din minsan. Isipin din kasi natin yung mga "magagandang" nagawa niya sayo, then weigh and evaluate it. Kung sa tingin mo naman karapat-dapat na ipaglaban, why not? Walang masama kung dun ka liligaya."
I guess experience is the best teacher…
May sense ba sinabi ko?